Just like your physical heart has four chambers that need to be consistently filled with life-giving blood, there are four emotional chambers of every man’s heart that need to be filled as well.  Here are the four chambers. Chamber 1, Validation. Validate his value, his gifts, his worthiness, and his manliness. A husband really does want his wife to see him as her superman, a man who can “leap tall buildings in a...

It's no mystery…many women enjoy shopping as an “experience.”  On the other hand, most men shop with the "hunter" mentality…get what you need, as quickly as you can, and get back to your cave.  With these two polar opposite mindsets, shopping together can be frustrating…if you let it.  So, what’s the solution?  Look at shopping with your wife as a date…a way to spend time with her.  When you’re shopping with her,...

While I can’t give you superpowers, I can give you the power of insight regarding your spouse with 7 Ways to Be a Hero to Your Husband. First, praise him in front of the kids.  Say something along the lines of, “You should have seen your Dad today—he was awesome!” Second, engage in something he enjoys. Figure out what he’s passionate about and join in—whether it’s sports or exercise or cooking. Third, respect his...

In my effort to help wives better communicate with their husbands, I’m going to share with you today a double secret male code that we men completely understand, but women don’t.  So for all the women out there who thought it was impossible to understand men, here is a key for decoding just some of your husband’s words.  First, when he asks “What’s wrong?” he really means “It’s obvious something’s wrong, so please...

Over the years, Susan has learned that there are some things that she shouldn’t say to me. Maybe you’ve said a few things that didn’t please your husband either. So, what are some of those things you should not say to your husband? Here are a few... “I don’t respect you.” It's a devastating blow when a wife tells her husband that she doesn’t respect him. Another is "Why are you doing that?" A man does not want his...

I can tell you firsthand that there are two things husbands really want: respect and adoration.  So if you want to love your husband well, then adore him well. Here are some ways to help you get started.  First, adore him as he is.  Don’t wait until he’s nicer, more patient, or making more money.  It’s important to lay a foundation and adore him right now for who he is.  Second, adore him for what he...

When our expectations for our spouse become unreasonable, we are really setting our marriages up to falter and maybe even fail. Here are some unfair expectations wives should avoid. First, that he will always “Get You.” My wife, Susan, sometimes says…“You just don’t get me.” And she’s right. As a man, I don’t think like Susan and don’t always understand how she’s feeling even when I try. The second unfair...