Questions are coffee for our minds. Questions stimulate us. Questions get us thinking, challenge us, and convict us. And while I know you and your spouse won’t ask yourselves these 9 questions every day, I hope they’ll inspire you in your marriage. Question 1, did we say, “I love you” and hug each other? Question 2, did we compliment more than we criticized one another? Question 3, did we listen to each other more...

Women need to be loved, but men need to be respected.  It’s a two-way street.  Even though respecting your husband may go against every fiber of your being . . . the benefits to your marriage will far outweigh the costs.  How do you begin?  First, let your husband know you appreciate him.  Thank him for protecting and providing for your family.  Second, honor your husband in front of others.  When you are out with...

In today’s world, women have an unrealistic bar set for them in the beauty department.  No one can measure up – not even the air-brushed models.  But, if you believe your wife is beautiful, she will be.  Nothing is more important to a woman than what she sees in the mirror of her husband’s opinion.  So, what can you do?  First, tell her she’s beautiful and mean it.  She’ll feel transformed.  Second, make sure she...

We all know that men and women often communicate in very different ways. So to find out how not to communicate with your wife, I decided to ask my own wife, Susan, for some helpful tips.  First, she told me never to approach your wife with attack intensity.  She explained that when communicating with a forceful attitude rather than a soft demeanor, your wife will become defensive.  Second, she warned that a...

Susan and I went on a trip with our good friends a few weeks ago. We’re really close with this couple. After Jay observed me interacting with Susan for a couple of days, he said to me, “I notice that when you and Susan talk, you interrupt her a lot. That’s not very respectful. Cutting her off while she’s speaking, even unintentionally, shows that you care more about what you want to say than what she is saying.”...

In marriage, it’s wise to think first…then think again…and then say what’s on your mind.  For example, your spouse forgets to take out the trash for the hundredth time, or leaves the garage door open after you’ve asked them to close it when they get home.  Well, before you let them have it…wait. Think about what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it.  The goal should be to help your spouse understand...

When you were dating your wife, you were captivated by her beauty, her charm, and the way she looked at you.  You couldn’t believe she was your girlfriend.  All these things inspired you to be a better boyfriend. But she needs to know that you still find her as captivating as ever.  If your wife is captivating, tell her.  First, don’t take her for granted.  Find a way to say “I love you” every day even if it’s...