Yesterday we talked about what a husband wants to hear from his wife.  Today we’ll talk about the 10 things wives want to hear from their husbands.  So men, here’s what you can say.  Number one… “Thanks for all you do for our family.”  Number two… “You are a great mom and wife.”  Three… “Let me do that for you.”  Four… “I love you so much.”  Be sure to tell your wife the rest of the 10 things wives want to hear...

We often associate the heart with love, but practically speaking, the heart sustains life. It needs all four chambers working right.  My wife, Susan, and I believe there are four chambers in every wife’s heart that fill her with life and love. The first chamber of a wife’s heart is to be understood, even when you don’t agree on everything. Your good listening skills help her see you’re trying to understand her,...

Twenty-five years of marriage to my wife, Susan, has taught me that women often communicate by saying one thing, but meaning another. So for all the men out there who thought it was impossible to understand women, here is a key for decoding your wife’s words. First, when she says “I’m fine” she really means “I’m not fine, but I’m not ready to talk about it.” Second, when she says, “Didn’t you go out with your...

During our 25 years of marriage, I’ve said a few things to Susan that didn’t make her happy. Maybe you’ve said a few things that didn’t please your wife either. So what are some of those things you should not say to your wife? Here are a few…"Calm down. Relax!” This can come across as belittling of their emotional stress. Another is “What were you thinking?” When that’s said, you’re basically saying “that was a...

That may sound strange, but last month when my wife had yet another serious heart surgery, I struggled to trust God more than I thought I would…and even more than Susan did.  My lack of trust came in part from my own helplessness…not being in control. She was in the hands of a surgeon who doesn’t know or love her like I do. But control is a bit of a myth…there are so many things I cannot control in life.  Sure, I...

When our expectations for our wives become unreasonable, we are really setting our marriages up to falter and perhaps even fail. Here are some unfair expectations husbands should avoid. First, that she always needs you to fix it. Just because Susan tells me about a challenge doesn’t mean she wants me to fix it. She usually knows how to fix something and just wants me to listen to her. Second, you should not just...

Your marriage has some nonnegotiables—a list of things your wife should be able to expect from you. Here are a few of them. First, trustworthy. That means you are who you say you are and will do what you say you’ll do. Second, faithful…not giving yourself away in any way to another woman…physically, mentally, or emotionally. Third, protector. Your wife and your children need to feel safe and protected—and not just...