We often associate the heart with love, but practically speaking, the heart sustains life. It needs all four chambers working right.  My wife, Susan, and I believe there are four chambers in every wife’s heart that fill her with life and love. The first chamber of a wife’s heart is to be understood, even when you don’t agree on everything. Your good listening skills help her see you’re trying to understand her,...

Twenty-five years of marriage to my wife, Susan, has taught me that women often communicate by saying one thing, but meaning another. So for all the men out there who thought it was impossible to understand women, here is a key for decoding your wife’s words. First, when she says “I’m fine” she really means “I’m not fine, but I’m not ready to talk about it.” Second, when she says, “Didn’t you go out with your...

While I can’t give you superpowers, I can give you the power of insight regarding your spouse with 7 Ways to Be a Hero to Your Husband. First, praise him in front of the kids.  Say something along the lines of, “You should have seen your Dad today—he was awesome!” Second, engage in something he enjoys. Figure out what he’s passionate about and join in—whether it’s sports or exercise or cooking. Third, respect his...

In my effort to help wives better communicate with their husbands, I’m going to share with you today a double secret male code that we men completely understand, but women don’t.  So for all the women out there who thought it was impossible to understand men, here is a key for decoding just some of your husband’s words.  First, when he asks “What’s wrong?” he really means “It’s obvious something’s wrong, so please...

Here are some of the best kept secrets to a successful marriage. First, understand that the universe does not revolve around your child. Do everything you can to keep your spouse a top priority.  Second, realize that love is a daily choice that you make and an action you take. Love is all about giving selflessly and sacrificially to your spouse. Third, never everstop dating. Carve out consistent time each week or...

When we talk about what a good marriage takes, we like to focus on the basics. We talk about loving our spouse, caring for our spouse, and spending time with our spouse. And while those things are certainly important, there’s a huge part of marriage that we don’t talk about as much…and that’s physical intimacy. When you’re married, you’re called to love your spouse in every way…emotionally, spiritually, and...

She interrupted me mid-sentence…again. He left his clothes in a heap on the bedroom floor…again. Those annoying habits can be frustrating, especially when we’ve asked our spouse to stop doing them so many times. So what should you do? First, ask yourself, “Why does that habit really bother me?”  A habit might frustrate us if we have a certain way of doing things and our spouse does things very differently. Second,...