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Different Communication Styles for Your Spouse

It’s crucial to develop good listening skills that account for your spouse’s style. There are different communication “personalities” that help you to listen better. For instance, maybe you’re married to what I call “Details Danny…or Danielle”. They don’t just tell a story, but the entire story. Details that seem frivolous to you are a big deal to them. And they don’t feel heard without telling details. So if you...
Feb 16, 2015 / Communication

Want to Know How Your Spouse Thinks?

Author Cynthia Ulrich Tobias wrote a book that helps parents and educators understand kids. It’s called The Way They Learn. Her insights about learning styles can also help spouses who are trying to better understand one another. The first learning style is Concrete-Sequential. These spouses are organized and efficient. Systems and routines just make sense to them, and they take things literally. The second style...
Feb 05, 2015 / Communication

5 Consequences of Going to Bed Angry

Ending your day angry at your spouse can cause a lot of harmful effects. Here are just a few of those consequences. First, bricks are added to the wall that divides you as a couple. And as the wall gets higher, the division gets wider. Second, when you go to sleep angry, it’s hard to have a fresh start the next day. That last thing on your mind at night often becomes the first thing on your mind the next day....
Feb 02, 2015 / Communication

How to Stop, Drop, and Roll in Your Marrirage

All couples have disagreements. Much of the time, these fights are like brush fires—they come out of nowhere and overwhelm us with flames. And just like a real fire, the fires in our marriages require us to do three things: stop, drop, and roll. First, we must stop. This means stopping a healthy debate from escalating into an unhealthy argument by taking a break at the first sign it is getting out of control....
Jan 27, 2015 / Communication

7 Tips to Avoid Making Disastrous Family Decisions

It’s not just the decisions themselves that impact your family; it’s also how you go about making them. Healthy decisions tend to be the ones that are made using a healthy process. Be committed to the principle that no big decision should be made without the full input and consideration of your spouse. Decisions made without a spouse’s input communicate, “I don’t value or need your opinion and perspective…I got...
Jan 12, 2015 / Communication

10 Questions to Ask Your Wife Every Year

The best remedy for marriage conflict is marriage communication.  Communication is key because it prevents unnecessary fights and opens up doors to go deeper in your relationship with your wife.  So to help you fall in love with your spouse all over again, here are 10 questions to ask your wife every year.  First ask, “What do you think is going right in our relationship?”  Then talk about and celebrate the good. ...
Mar 27, 2014 / Communication

Marriage Olympics: What We Can Learn from Cross-Country Skiing

Of all the sports that make up the 2014 Winter Olympics, there is one that’s a lot like marriage: cross-country skiing.  So how can you learn to go for the gold in our marriage from this timeless sport?  First, you can learn to prepare for different terrains.  Some days you’ll glide freely in your marriage. Other days may feel relationally cold and icy.  Be prepared for these different terrains by having a...
Feb 06, 2014 / Communication



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