Author Cynthia Ulrich Tobias wrote a book that helps parents and educators understand kids. It’s called The Way They Learn. Her insights about learning styles can also help spouses who are trying to better understand one another. The first learning style is Concrete-Sequential. These spouses are organized and efficient. Systems and routines just make sense to them, and they take things literally. The second style is Concrete-Random. These spouses are insightful and instinctive. And they don’t like routines or restrictions. Understand more about your spouse's learning style and see what a difference it makes in your marriage.