Mood killers don’t just ruin a moment, they hurt a marriage if they become ongoing patterns of behavior. For example, avoid what I call “The only thing you want” mood killer. This can hurt a marriage if your spouse thinks you’re only showing an interest in them because you want something in return. Look for opportunities to remind your spouse that you find her interesting and enjoy her company, with no strings...

A great date night takes more than just creativity to be effective. So we’ve got a plan-a-date night checklist for you. It’s got some simple steps to help you make the most of your time with your spouse. For example, get your family business done before or after the date. It’s tempting to use date time to go over your to-do lists, solve financial questions, figure out your vacation and holiday schedules or solve...

Let’s face it: All couples fight. And whether it’s a small disagreement or a huge argument, it’s important that you and your spouse learn to work things out together. So here are 3 ways to fight conflict in your marriage. First, accept that there will be conflict in your marriage. The sooner you accept that conflict is unavoidable, the sooner you can look for solutions. Second, avoid conflict as much as possible....

We all want to feel desired—and men are no exception! So here are 4 ways to make your husband feel like a man. First, recognize his physical strength. Tell him how great it is to have someone “strong” around the house. Next, let him lead. If there’s something you’re not as skilled at, like throwing a football or dealing with finances, ask him to show you. Third, teach your kids to admire him. This means bragging...

For many, winter is all about staying inside and not venturing out into the cold. And while you can enjoy time with your spouse right in your own living room, it’s important to change things up from time to time. So put on your hats, gloves, and scarves and enjoy a winter night out with these creative date ideas. First, for the active wife, there are plenty of outdoor adventures you can do together. Try skiing,...

Too much peace and harmony in your marriage?  If so, here are a few things you can do to start a fight with your spouse. First, change plans at the last minute. Don’t consult with your spouse and just do what’s best for you. Second, have a serious conversation right before bed when you both are tired from a long day. That can easily lead to an argument. Third, compare your spouse to others. Say something...

Marriage is when two become one. And when we hold ourselves to a different set of standards than our spouse, we create an unfair, double standard and division. So let’s check out some common double standards and how to avoid them. First, do you have “impulse buys” or frivolous spending habits, but get angry at your spouse for doing the same? Avoid this double standard by agreeing on a budget and spending...