There are lots of qualities that matter: character, integrity, stability. But here’s something else to consider: look for someone who encourages you and has a positive outlook. It’s hard to have a happy marriage when your partner constantly criticizes you or makes you feel inadequate. Your spouse should be trying to build you up, not tear you down. And, it’s easier to have a happy marriage when you’re with someone...

Every child wants to be loved.  As their parent, it’s up to you to love your kids, but you have to be intentional to love them well.  So here are 7 Love Actions.  First, you can show your kids you love them with your words.  Never assume they know you love them.  Be sure to tell them, and tell them often.  Second, show your kids love by spending time with them.  Toss the football, go for a bike ride, or read them...

If you really want to know, ask a single parent.  Their job is never-ending.  Their work is never done.  Day after day they carry the load…alone.  No wonder they often feel like they have the whole world on their shoulders.  So how can we help single moms and dads?  Start with the little things. The next time you’re washing the car, offer to wash theirs too.  Drop off dinner, or watch their children for the...

In the movie, Courageous, Alex says he doesn’t want to be a “good enough” father.  He wants to be more.  Do you? Are your kids your priority?  Do you attend their recitals or games?  How much time do you spend with your children each week? Here’s a thought–calendar your kids!  Children spell love T-I-M-E. Pick a time each week for each child. Mark it on your calendar, and spend one-on-one time together – even if...

We’ve all seen it before.  We say something to our spouse and, immediately, we can see their face starting to turn red with rage. Well, if you realize you’ve offended your spouse, or have been misinterpreted, you can ask for a “do-over,” where you rephrase the statement so that it’s kinder and clearer. First, when you see your spouse bristling, stop the conversation immediately.  Second, ask for the do over with...

It’s hard to say “no” when someone asks you to help for a good cause or a good thing. But, to protect what’s most important, time with God, your spouse, your kids and grandkids, it’s good to say “no” sometimes. So to help you to know when to say “no,” here are practical questions to ask yourself.  First, “Is this something that I’m uniquely equipped to do?” You need to determine if your gifts and talents are...

I’ve been hearing that question more and more lately.  People who’ve had affairs often say that they had some unfulfilled need that slowly began to be met by someone other than their spouse—a friend, co-worker, old flame, a neighbor.  From there, it was a slippery slope to a full-blown extramarital affair and a broken marriage.  So what can you do? Well, be aware of danger signs and take action.  The best way to...