I can tell you firsthand that there are two things husbands really want: respect and adoration.  So if you want to love your husband well, then adore him well. Here are some ways to help you get started.  First, adore him as he is.  Don’t wait until he’s nicer, more patient, or making more money.  It’s important to lay a foundation and adore him right now for who he is.  Second, adore him for what he...

When our expectations for our spouse become unreasonable, we are really setting our marriages up to falter and maybe even fail. Here are some unfair expectations wives should avoid. First, that he will always “Get You.” My wife, Susan, sometimes says…“You just don’t get me.” And she’s right. As a man, I don’t think like Susan and don’t always understand how she’s feeling even when I try. The second unfair...

We’ve heard more than once that men crave respect—especially from their wives.  But I think it’s important that we define what sort of respect men are looking for.  So women, here are some respect needs of men.  First, respect his judgment.  Men crave to know that their wife deeply respects the things that make up his judgment: his knowledge, his opinions, and his decisions.  Second, respect his abilities.  This...

Well, maybe you’re not saying what he wants to hear.  What your husband craves are words of praise and validation from the most important person in his life.  There are 10 things your husband wants to hear from you.  Number one… “I love being your wife.”  Number two… “You’re an outstanding father.”  Three… “I’m really attracted to you.  You are the Man!”  Four… “I really respect the decision you made.”  For the...

Men want to know they’re respected, trusted, courageous, and that they’ve got what it takes. And they need to hear it from you. So here are 10 things husbands want to hear from their wives. Number 1, “I’m always on your team.”  Number 2, “I wouldn’t want to be on this journey with anyone else.” Number 3, “I don’t’ say it enough, but you are a good man and a good husband.” Number 4, “I don’t understand, but I know...

Husbands and wives sometimes have unrealistic expectations of one another in marriage. But, there are a few things that a husband can and should expect from his wife. The first is respect. It’s one of the essentials men need in marriage?it's a fuel that drives them. You can keep his tank topped up with notes or words affirming his judgment and abilities. The second thing a husband should expect from his wife is...

Marriage means making mistakes—lots of mistakes. Unfortunately, some of those mistakes are harder to forgive than others. So here are 2 truths to consider when you’re struggling to forgive your husband. First, remember that someday the tables will turn and you’ll need forgiveness. Be ready to show him grace, knowing that eventually you’ll need his undeserved favor in return. Second, acknowledge that forgiveness is...