For many couples, conflict occurs because they remember things differently. Sometimes the actual details are clear-cut, and a cool review and discussion will sort things out. But often it's just that men and women simply remember things differently because their brains are wired differently. It's why men are often single-minded and women can more easily multitask. When dealing with an important issue you each remember differently, assume the best of your spouse. They're not just being argumentative. Concentrate on the big picture, rather than the small details. Don't aim just to be right. Look for how you can reach agreement and move forward together in right relationship.

For more on this topic on my blog, go to Why Couples Remember Things Differently.