We all know that men and women often communicate in very different ways. So to find out how not to communicate with your wife, I decided to ask my own wife, Susan, for some helpful tips.  First, she told me never to approach your wife with attack intensity.  She explained that when communicating with a forceful attitude rather than a soft demeanor, your wife will become defensive.  Second, she warned that a husband should not approach a wife with his mind already made up.  Susan reminded me that discussions in marriage should leave room for solving problems together.  According to Susan, here are 5 ways not to communicate with your wife.