When our kids are young, we enjoy being “in control” parents.  We control what they eat, where they go, and even who they spend time with.  But all kids grow up, right? So how can you slowly let go of the steering wheel and prepare them for the future?  Move from being an “in control” parent to an “out of control” parent in 3 steps.  First, when they’re really little, you drive everything.  Second, as they mature into the early teen years, you ride shotgun.  You’re still in the car, but you’re mostly a coach.  Third, when they’re ready and mature enough, you give them the keys.  This is when they’re in control and you’re out of control.  Here’s more on how to be an out of control parent.