6 Habits of Highly-Bonded Couples
1. Are courteous and kind to each other. A little kindness goes a long way. Try to treat your spouse like a good friend. If you're rude and snippy to your spouse, why would they want to be nice to you?
2. Talk about issues before they get out of hand. In marriage, you have to choose your battles, but if you sense that an irritation is becoming a major annoyance, you need to talk about it with your spouse.
3. Believe in each other. If you think your spouse is a loser, you're going to treat them that way. Even if they have a track record of failures or poor decisions, keep your opinion of those outcomes separate from who your spouse is as a person.
4. Assume the best about each other. Look for the good things about your spouse and assume the best in their actions and words. Instead of assuming that they have bad intentions, give them the benefit of the doubt before you jump to conclusions.
5. Live in a "we" world. Couples who are close use words that show they are set apart. Try to say, "Our bedroom, our house, our children, etc." Think of you and your spouse as a team.
6. Touch. It sounds corny, but hugs are healthy. So, hug your spouse, instead of just giving a quick peck on the cheek or lips. Touch your husband’s shoulder while he's driving, offer to give your wife a massage, and hold hands while you pray at church.
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