If you want to strengthen you marriage, start by paying your spouse a compliment. It’s true that a little encouragement goes a long way. To help you get started, here are 10 compliments for wives to give their husbands and 10 compliments for husbands to give their wives. Be deliberate about building up your spouse.
1. Compliment his attractiveness.
Men tell us all the time that the sexual chemistry with their wives is very important. Let him know that he’s still wanted by letting him know when he looks handsome. Trust us, he’s dying to know you still think so.
2. Compliment his work ethic.
Working hard every day to provide for a family is a daunting task. Tell your husband that you appreciate how hard he works, and that you’re proud of his professional accomplishments.
3. Compliment his skills as a dad.
It’s easy for moms to spend more time second-guessing and correcting dads in the parenting department than complimenting their contribution. When you see your husband making a positive impact on the kids in big ways or small, say so!
4. Compliment him as a spiritual leader.
Leading the family toward deeper relationships with God is another of the huge responsibilities your husband carries. Even if he’s still growing in this role, thanking him for what he gets right can encourage him to keep growing personally and to lead you and the kids with purpose.
5. Compliment him as an athlete.
There’s a little macho streak in every guy that likes to think he’s still got it on the court, the diamond, or the track. Cheer him on at the company softball game and fill his cup to the brim! (Just don’t let him break out that jersey and letter jacket from ’87.)
6. Compliment his character.
You may be the only person who knows the sacrifices your husband has made to do what’s right, rather than to simply get ahead. By all means, let him know that you notice his character and integrity and that you’re proud of the man he is.
7. Compliment his handiness.
Some guys are handier around the house than others, but deep down, they all want to be the guy who can fix/build/install anything. Even if the sandbox he built for the kids is a little lopsided, thank him for taking the time to make your home a great place to live.
8. Compliment his efforts in extended family relationships.
Believe us, if your husband gets along fairly well with your parents, it’s not without a little bit of effort. Let him know that you notice when he bites his tongue or sits through another Thanksgiving political rant by Uncle Herb without snapping, just for the sake of family unity. After all—he’s really doing it for you.
9. Compliment his personal interests.
Even if hunting or golf hold absolutely no interest for you, it’s nice to still be excited for him when he enjoys a new achievement in his hobby. So when he brings home that trophy after a hunting trip or finally sinks a hole-in-one, celebrate with him!
10. Compliment the little gestures.
Lucky is the woman who has a husband who’ll brave the cold to de-ice her windshield on a winter morning, or who throws in a load of laundry when he knows she has a busy week at work. Compliment his thoughtfulness, and he’ll likely look for more ways to make your day better.
1. “I love talking with you; you’re interesting and funny.”
Communication is a key component of a marriage that works. Lose conversation and you lose one-another.
2. “Today was another one of those days that made me so glad I asked you to marry me.”
You enjoy your life together. Make sure she knows it for a fact. Make sure she knows you’d ask her again in a heartbeat.
3. “Your life tells the truth about love.”
This is a quote about love for the ages. Some people can be loving, or positive, or generous, or kind. But the way your wife is goes beyond that. If you really “get” your wife, tell her how she is. Tell her every way you know how.
4. “The kind of mom you are makes it so much easier to be the kind of a dad I need to be.”
This parenting thing is all about teamwork. Self-doubt is ever present. Be the encourager. Let her know she inspires you.
5. “Sometimes you are so beautiful that I just want to stand still and look at you.”
Go ahead. Make her day. Then do it – look at her like that…
6. “Thank you for being such a hard worker.”
Simply acknowledging she works just as hard, if not harder, than you do will go a long way to encourage her. Just because some in this world will not give her credit for all the labor of love necessary to be a wife and mother does not mean it’s anything other than vitally important.
7. “Thanks for loving me the way you do; you make me want to be a better man.”
Okay, so we borrowed this one from Jack Nicholson’s character in the movie, “As Good As It Gets”. But it’s more than a great line - this compliment lets her know she’s inspirational as well as hot.
8. “You’re the reason this place is called ‘home’ rather than just a house.”
Your wife puts her heart into the heart of your home. Recognize that. Let her know you appreciate her love and her skill.
9. “Thanks for being my best friend.”
Most men own a feeling of real emptiness outside a loving marriage relationship. Tell your wife that you understand what’s going on and that you value her gift of friendship to your life.
10. “Thanks for your honesty.”
Many men look at their wives as nags when they’re honest. And that is true at times for some women. But for many husbands, your wife’s honesty is gift and a chance to grow. When your best friend who loves you is open enough to be honest, it’s an opportunity for you to fix something. And that is invaluable.
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