Help for Workaholics
By: Robert Shannon
Does your career determine your level of success in life? Do you find your personal worth in your bank account balance? Is your identity found in who you are – a husband, a dad, a good friend – or in what you do?
Success can be a blessing if it is a piece of a well-rounded pie; but, if it is the whole pie, success will always leave you hungry for more. And, you may have no family or friends left with whom to eat the pie!
So, whether you are just beginning your professional life or have been living in the working world for years...stop, look, and read the article below before you find yourself eating alone.
Are You At Risk for Workaholism?
When I was assigned the topic of workaholism for this column, I knew immediately who to turn to. My close friend just happens to be a successful senior executive from a Bay Area consulting firm. He’s also a consummate workaholic and one of the savviest professionals I know.
“It’s how you get ahead that matters,” he says. “Working late, putting in the extra time, getting things done, making a difference. It’s the quickest way to the top.”
For this story, he prefers to remain anonymous. Let’s call him “Steve”. Despite all of Steve’s career and financial success, I wouldn’t trade places with him. To me, the cost of all that achievement is too high, and the work/life balance is – to put it mildly – out of whack.
Out of Control
As Steve has climbed the career ladder, he’s left other important parts of his life behind.
Here’s just one example: Back in college he was an avid skier, but he hasn’t been on a mountain in years, even though his college buddies make an annual trip to a Colorado resort. “It’s too hard to get away from work,” he complains.
His weekly pick-up basketball games are a thing of the past as well. And Steve has remained single since his brief marriage ended nearly 10 years ago.
To be certain, Steve has also enjoyed plenty of highlights in his life thanks to his career successes. But at what cost? I believe sacrificing a vital emotional, physical, and personal life is not the only pathway to success – and it’s definitely not a healthy one.
Striking a balance between your work and your personal life is a very important way to define success. And as you’re starting out in your career, it’s important to keep a life outside of work. Remember, everything in moderation.
Are You at Risk?
For some of you, this is a non-issue. I remember when I graduated from college and started work; hanging on to my social life wasn’t a problem!
But for plenty of you, as you start your career, you will have to re-examine the balance between your personal life and your professional life. If you’re feeling consumed by work, ask yourself a few questions. According to Workaholics Anonymous, there may be a problem with workaholism if you answer “yes” to any three of the following questions:
1. Do you get more excited about your work than about family or anything else?
2. Are there times when you can charge through your work and other times when you can’t?
3. Do you take work with you to bed? On weekends? On vacation?
4. Is work the activity you like to do best and talk about most?
5. Do you work more than 40 hours a week?
6. Do you turn your hobbies into moneymaking ventures?
7. Do you take complete responsibility for the outcome of your work efforts?
8. Has your family or friends given up expecting you on time?
9. Do you take on extra work because you are concerned that it won’t otherwise get done?
10. Do you underestimate how long a project will take and then rush to complete it?
11. Do you believe that it is ok to work long hours if you love what you are doing?
12. Do you get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work?
13. Are you afraid that if you don’t work hard you will lose your job or be a failure?
14. Is the future a constant worry for you even when things are going very well?
15. Do you do things energetically and competitively, including play?
16. Do you get irritated when people ask you to stop doing your work in order to do something else?
17. Have your long hours hurt your family or other relationships?
18. Do you think about your work while driving, falling asleep or when others are talking?
19. Do you work or read during meals?
20. Do you believe that more money will solve the other problems in your life?
If you find yourself answering “yes” to these questions, remember that you are not alone. In a 2004 survey conducted by Harris Interactive for the travel website, Expedia.com, nearly 40% of workers had either cancelled or postponed vacations because of work. And, startlingly, 10% said that they believed using all of their vacation time would make them look bad in their boss’s eyes.
If you find yourself slipping into workaholism, there are simple steps you can take to remedy the situation. Make time away from work with your friends and family doing activities you enjoy or just relaxing. If you’re regularly working more than five days a week, schedule a long weekend. You can take a vacation or even just do things around your own city that you like to do. Just make sure you don’t turn on your laptop or answer work-related phone calls and emails!
Here are a few other helpful suggestions to keep workaholism at bay:
• Find a hobby.
• Keep a regular sleep schedule.
• If you have a family, keep a standing dinner or play date with them.
• Stay active outside of work. Make a point to exercise and eat right.
Workaholics Anonymous offers a 12-step program similar to programs often recommended for other addictions. But, like any addiction, you first have to admit that you have a problem, and then seek help. If you don’t, however, the work cycle can be never-ending.
Though he is admittedly a workaholic, Steve has never sought help for his addiction. “I’m happy,” he says, “This is what I’ve always wanted.”
Robert Shannon is a free-lance writer from Chicago. Used with permission from Workaholics Anonymous World Service Organization, Inc.